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The Ellimist
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A short note on suffering Empty A short note on suffering

on February 1st 2020, 6:06 am
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Our emotional suffering essentially comes from narratives that we attach to phenomena; we tell ourselves that the emotions we feel are some sort of judge of whether we should suffer, whether things are terrible, etc., when at a fundamental level they are just sensations arising in awareness. We create stories around how this anger manifesting as tension in, say, your shoulders, is linked to something that is linked to something about the external world and how this person was like that, etc. We do the same with visual, auditory, etc. input that at a fundamental level are just more sensations, but that we attach narratives around.

There are two ways - or at least, this OP will mention two ways - to counteract this:

  • Change the narrative. This can happen through both reframing the negative in a constructive and less suffering-inducing manner, or by focusing more on the positive, which we tend to overlook.
  • Forget the narrative. Bring your awareness to the present moment and just enjoy the act of existing while letting things come into your awareness without judgment or clinging. (this way is basically mindfulness)

Depending on the context, one or the other, or more skillfully a combination of the two, can be powerful antidotes to suffering. The two can reinforce each other; more positive narratives make mindfulness easier, and mindfulness makes more positive narratives easier. It's incredible how much suffering you can reduce by just tweaking your mental habits a small measure.

EDIT: on a more grounded level, relaxing tension + breathing helps a lot too.


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CuckedCurry
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A short note on suffering Empty Re: A short note on suffering

on February 2nd 2020, 3:28 pm
Welcome suffering, don’t resist it. You will be stronger by the end of it
Latham2000
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A short note on suffering Empty Re: A short note on suffering

on February 3rd 2020, 4:32 pm
Pain and suffering is a part of life. I agree with the OP's stance. When you focus on your problems, you will have more problems and your mind will detoriate and slowly descend into madness and despair. Depression of course, isn't a choice. Feeling dead inside isn't a choice. Feeling like something is eating you up inside isn't a choice. Feeling empty isn't a choice. Reality is created by the mind, but you can change your reality by changing your mind. It's easier said than done though, because one of the traps of the invisible illness known as depression is that it leaves you vulnerable to a self sabotaging pattern of self loathing and self doubt, overcoming this will require mastery of the subconscious mind because you've clearly become a slave to your depression. Elliott Hulse makes a good video on something related to this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J0dTVX-HZaA

"..... But your head, the head can be a beautiful servant, or it could be a horrific master. If you allow your head to (how can I put this), if you allow your judgements, if you allow your conditioning, if we allow our stories, we allow how the world has trained us to think about ourselves and others to suppress and dominate our heart, and our instinct, then we are not fully grounded, we're not fully human, we're not grounded in our truth, in our reality..."
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